Dating absolutely preference
A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.
Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.
In one particularly sad story, a New York woman was separated from more than ,000 by a man she met on Match who claimed he was a soldier stationed in Afghanistan. Then there are the cases of both men and women getting blackmailed after being coerced into exposing themselves via webcam (though these incidents aren’t strictly confined to online dating sites).
The internet is peppered with stories like these, and it’s become such a serious issue that the FBI has released a press report on how to recognize an online dating scam artist. In 2011, Match finally announced that they would start implementing background checks.
And hey, mad props to you for being such an exemplary case of human savvy. As a site representative put it, while “these checks may help in certain instances, they remain highly flawed, and it is critical that this effort does not provide a false sense of security to our members.” Thanks, Match. Or was this a subtle “fuck off” to all your dissatisfied daters? Just be wary of the human scum you may come across. The person you meet may not be the person you were corresponding with.
This time, a federal judge threw out the case, on the grounds that Match makes perfectly clear in their terms of service that they do not screen member profiles, nor will they take any responsibility for doing so.
In other words, even if the allegations that most of their profiles are inactive or fake, Match is not obligated in any way to remove them.
My girlfriend and I met on e Harmony, so I’ll be the first to acknowledge that online dating can absolutely be a worthwhile experience. I dabbled with it for almost , and prior to Melissa, the most memorable thing I came away with was a tome’s worth of craptacular dating stories.
(Though, in that respect, I guess I do have e Harmony and Match to thank for my writing career.) Armed with years of slow-churned cynicism, I took to the internet to see if others shared my experiences.